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Finding Creative Flow in the Midst of Chaos

by Lisa Avnet

Women, Creative Flow States, and Fragmented Time

When my children were younger and still at home, it was almost a given that when I set time aside for myself to write or make art, suddenly and eerily a snafu or drama that required my time and attention would occur.  It seemed that a part of them knew that my energy wasn't going to be available to them, and set about to remedy that by producing a drama. 

A writing Wednesday booked off work, a weekend writing getaway, a two hour slot in my calendar for when they were supposed to be asleep, or at their dad's - whatever I scheduled unbeknownst to them, would be impacted. Their unerring instinct for knowing when I scheduled blocks of time for myself was very frustrating, to say the least!  I got good at backup plans, and second backup plans and making do with what time I had left.  I became an expert at shifting my attention, and re-focusing from the mini-crisis du jour back to my scheduled writing time, yet another skill in the marathon of motherhood.

Learning self-hypnosis was a game changer for me.  Prior to that, when the kids were younger, breathing practices,and other practices to move energy including dancing, making quick doodles with colored markers, and reading poetry ,all helped me stay on course and not dissolve into frustration.    These are some of the practices I offer in my writing facilitation sessions at the Haven, honed in my daily life as well as with clients in my  practice.

Here's a great article I ran across recently on the same topic: link to Guardian article